Just for fun, and because I’m easily entertained, I enjoy reading through the list of search terms that have led people to click on Joyful on Purpose. So, just for more fun, I thought I’d share some here and my thoughts on them.
Best response when someone is not honest: I’m not sure what I wrote that would have led someone to my blog who was searching for the answer. My best response is to gently confront in a very non-confrontational way. Yeah, you read that correctly! I go the very long route when dealing with things like this. Actually, my response is usually to try to understand the root of the dishonesty and then forgive it. I’ve written about forgiveness before, and I could write a lot more on the subject, but the first rule in my book on the subject is “just do it.” It doesn’t mean things will be rosy or that relationships will be mended, but your heart and mind will be healthier.
Didn’t even break a nail: I’m one of those girls who loves to do things that might break a nail, but I’m very proud when I come away with a perfectly intact mani and pedi. I love to get muddy and messy on occasion, not from gardening or anything as lovely as that, but from races or adventures. And afterward, I like to put on a dress and look as though I would never even consider doing such an unladylike thing as romping through the mud! If you are anything like me, then you must consider the Badass Bash, an obstacle race taking place in Florida next spring. I plan to go and get sweaty and dirty and maybe a little beat up…without breaking a nail. (http://www.badassbash.com/)
Cool purple tattoos: Hmm, all I can say here is, “Yes, I’d like one.”
Pull the rug from under my feet: Oh boy! I have felt that like that countless times. But, what I am learning is that it’s okay when that happens. It hurts like crazy and can knock the wind right out of you. While you’re on the ground, take a minute to just look around and breathe a little. Then, begin to pick yourself up and surround yourself with people who care about you, who will help you tend to any bruises or scrapes, and move on. It will be okay.
Why do the voices in my head tell me lies?: I wish I had the answer to this question. It’s so maddening that some of the voices in my head can’t tell the truth. Ever. This is also a situation where at least one good friend or loved one is so crucial. They can replace the lying voices with truthful voices. And if you listen to the truthful voices, they will start to speak louder and drown out the lies. One of my friends wrote me a letter responding to my bingeing and starving cycle. I kept that email because it is filled with things I need to know and believe about myself. Every now and then I read it all the way through and then read it one more time for good measure. It’s my way of screaming back at the loud and dishonest voices. I may never know why the voices lie, but I hope I can learn to silence them.
Diagnosis for being an overthinker: I love that someone was searching this! There’s your diagnosis right there. Do you Google everything? Do you ask yourself questions and then answer yourself with new questions? Then you, my friend, are an overthinker. You’re probably a people-pleaser, a perfectionist, super detailed, and have a mind that never shuts down. The only prescription I have is to journal, journal, journal. Well, it’s also good to have a coffee date with a patient friend who will listen and then tell you what you need to hear – that you don’t have to have all the answers and that most things will work themselves out. Of course, you’ll leave that coffee date thinking about exactly how things will work themselves out…
Conclusion of mother an ideal homemaker: I found this search term very intriguing, so I typed it into Google and my blog was the first thing to show up. I tried for years and years to be the perfect mother and ideal homemaker. I think the only conclusion you can draw is that there may be no such thing. You do the best you can with what you’ve got. You fail and succeed, sometimes in the same hour. You make huge mistakes one day and wise decisions the next. You choose your battles and only fight the ones that are important to you or that will make the biggest difference in the long run. There is, however, one vital ingredient, one absolutely essential quality that you must possess to even think about being an ideal homemaker or mother, or person for that matter. L-O-V-E.
Does carrot cake help after surgery: Well, DUH… it can’t hurt! I would personally recommend cheesecake or a tangy piece of key lime pie. But if carrot cake makes you happy, go for it.
Can a place make you feel unanchored: This one led to my journal about nurturing your friendships. Friends make wonderful anchors and there can be a very long chain leading from you to those anchors. I have anchors in Texas, Florida, California, and even Dubai. They help me remember that I’m rooted to more than just the spot where my feet touch the ground. I’m rooted to other hearts and minds.
Okay, after all that, I should probably explain what my Yoda coffee cup cozy has to do with it. Well, I was searching the Internet for something completely different when I ran across my little knitted Yoda in an Etsy shop. I don’t even remember what I was searching for now! Sometimes that happens when we search – we come up with something unexpected. I hope that the people who went searching for the things I’ve just shared found what they were looking for, but I also hope that when they clicked on Joyful on Purpose, they found some unexpected joy. We can all use a little more of that.
The Unexpected = Joy