My name is Jacqueline, but pretty much everyone refers to me as Her Royal Highness Princess Jacqueline. I’m a regular  mom, sister, daughter, and friend (except for my royal title). Joy is my middle name, literally, and I’m embarking on a journey to live up to that name by finding joy in everything – the horrible, the wonderful, the mundane, the exciting. I hope to make the world a better place by living a life of happiness, gratitude, and joy.

In March of 2007, my husband, Brian, was diagnosed with stage 1B melanoma. He had surgery and some lymph nodes removed and tested (results were negative). On February 10, 2012, Brian’s melanoma returned and he was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic melanoma. Tests revealed it was in his liver, right lung, spleen, and adrenal glands. I had to quit my job in order to care for him full-time. The prognosis was not good. However, we decided from day one that cancer was going to be our “beautiful struggle” and we’d let it make us better people. Brian always had an infectious personality. I hope I have caught just a little bit of it and that I can take the exuberance he had for life and keep it going for the rest of my days. After just 112 days of battling cancer with grace and dignity, he passed away at 12:07am on May 28th, 2012, surrounded by those he loved. Now he is just part of something bigger and mysterious. I am on my own, but far from alone. Through his journey to death, I found life and I found my voice.

I believe love, happiness, contentment, and joy can be found in any circumstance. Finding them can be challenging, but it’s worth the effort and even the scars we receive from the beautiful struggles we endure in the pursuit of these things.

I would love to hear from you! Please share your ups, downs, happiness, sadness, and absolutely your “= Joy” moments! 

8 responses »

  1. Jacque, I don’t know if I am the first to reply to your new site but if so, I feel honored! Love the site and love your journaling. I wish some of my MBA students had the knack you do for putting sentences and thoughts together. If you didn’t know it before, you have found your gift. So glad to hear you and Brian are having good days….keeping you two in our thoughts and prayers. Give our regards to Brian’s Mom and Dad.

    Ray/Patti K in Seattle

  2. I wanted to let you know that I nominated you for Illuminating Blog award because I do feel like you brighten up the world a bit with your blog and with your presence. You are truly inspiring. It also gives me the chance to share your blog with the people who read mine. Thanks for writing and pass it on if you choose to.

  3. Hi,

    I am sorry for your loss. Your attitude to life is a testament to Brian’s life.

    I saw your hello on Leonie Dawson’s page

    and I love your choice of words, being joyful on purpose!

    Joy is my middle name too, hahah, just saying it makes me laugh.

    I like your thinking 🙂

    Great work with the blog! xx

  4. Hi Jacqueline, Your journey reminds me of the song by Kelly Clarkson called “Stronger.” What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You have been through harder times than I have but I have had my share of obstacles. I have turned inwardly toward God, reading his word and praying for spiriual guidance. We humans are both physical and spiritual and I know we tend to focus on the physical.
    I’d love to know or hear of any spiritual connection related to any of these trials Joyfulonpurpose!

    • If you haven’t seen it, I thought you might enjoy Professor Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture. In it, he talks about those brick walls we all face. Randy lost his battle with pancreatic cancer on July 25th, 2008.

      Someone also recommended a book titled “The Shack” which is an allegory about one man’s spiritual journey.

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